Unlike the man that is mainly attracted by what enters through his eyes, the woman is mainly attracted by what enters through her ears. You have to speak to the woman’s emotions for you to truly attract her. When it comes to the man, emotions don’t have to be involved at times. He could just see a woman from a distance, like her body shape, and want to sleep with her.

It is key that whichever man you will date or marry, you get to know if he is in love with you or your body.

Unlike the man that is mainly attracted by what enters through his eyes, the woman is mainly attracted by what enters through her ears. You have to speak to the woman’s emotions for you to truly attract her. When it comes to the man, emotions don’t have to be involved at times. He could just see a woman from a distance, like her body shape, and want to sleep with her. That’s a man! A man can, at times, sleep with a woman, not because he loves her. He could, at times, sleep with a woman plainly out of lust. If your man has slept with another woman, you need to be cognizant of the fact that him having slept with that woman may not mean he is in love with that woman.

A man could sleep with a woman just for sex. Ladies need to desist from always thinking that if a man has cheated, it has something to do with them. You could be all beautiful, but he could leave you and cheat, even with the not-so-beautiful lady. A man could have sex with you without having the slightest emotional connection. To a man, “breasts” could be just breasts, "bums" could be just bums, and nothing more. A man could be in love with your body, but not in love with you! That is why it is key that whichever man you will date or marry, you get to know if he is in love with you or your body. 

Extract taken from my book "The Naked Truth About Men".

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Bakhe Dlamini is relationship expert, marriage therapist, author of 5 books. He is Senior Founding Pastor of Yonder Worship Centre. Bakhe is a much sought-after conference speaker. For years, he has been a much loved columnist on Times of Swaziland. He has also for years been brand ambassador for MTN Swaziland. He is an accomplished recording artists who has received nominations and awards on African Gospel Music Awards as well as SABC Crown Gospel Awards. He is married to his dear wife, Nokwanda, and together, they have two daughters.